Let me clarify. He didn't actually grow out of the co-sleeper, rather it made it's way there within a couple short weeks of his birth. You see, we tried the whole co-sleeping thing. First with our newborn in the actual co-sleeper right next to the bed, but then in our bed when in the course of late night feedings he would simply end up staying in the bed with us. That didn't work out to well for us.
We just weren't getting much sleep doing it that way. Not that we ended up getting a lot more sleep for a while afterwards, but at the time we bore a striking resemblance to a couple of Zombies from The Walking Dead. We tired of that in a hurry, so to speak. This might have been our blaming co-sleeping for the general tiredness that comes with having a newborn, but the fact was we were tired, and blamed it on our attempts to co-sleep with our infant.
We'd been doing it, the co-sleeping thing that is, for a couple of weeks when things finally came to head and we realized that this wasn't going to work.
We awoke one morning to the realization that co-sleeping has serious drawbacks. At some point the previous evening co-sleeping became bed sharing. I had apparently been snoring and on several occasions my snorts had woke up Lukas. I say apparently since I still have no proof of this (Sweetie). Anyway, with both Mrs. LIAYF and I sleep deprived, at some point in the dead of night we all passed out into a deep slumber, with Lukas sleeping between us in the bed.
When Mrs. LIAYF awoke she was mortified to see me asleep with the weight of my arm covering Lukas' face and mouth. Further investigations confirmed the suffocation dangers of bed sharing with an infant as well. Suffice it to say, that was the end of our whole co-sleeping/bed sharing experiment. We moved Lukas into a crib in his own room that same night. He has not slept the night with us since.
And now, with Annabelle's arrival we have started her in her own room from day one. Sure, it's a pain to get up out of the warm bed at 3:00 AM to go feed her, but that's temporary. Like it did with Lukas, we figure this will pay off in due time in the form of sounder sleep for us all.
The benefits of this strategy became apparent to us again a few days ago when we sold it on Craigslist. The father who came by to pick it up and his wife also had a newborn, a boy. They needed the co-sleeper because, as he put it, they didn't have room in the bed for the baby.
The extra spot was already occupied - by their nearly 4 year old. The dad was lamenting this fact to us as he was handing us the three Jacksons, and was quite surprised that we had a newborn as well. We informed him of our choice not to co-sleep, but he told us that this was not the same choice he and his wife had made, unfortunately.
I know co-sleeping/bed sharing is a good or necessary choice for many families, and I am sure that those families probably make it work just fine. It just wasn't for us. I couldn't imagine Lukas, or Annabelle for that matter, still sleeping in our room let alone bed at the age of 4, 7, or even 10! - as sweet as they both are.
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Plus, both kids do quite well in their own rooms. And we do still get short cuddles with Lukas between us in our bed a couple of times a week. We make those count.
What about you readers. Do you, or did you co-sleep?